(06-14-2012, 04:26 PM)Xigo Wrote: ... Versich's mopeyness is not oppressing in its current state?
...
I'll have to try harder.
I'm pretty sure Merica does a good enough job of depressing people for the both of them.
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So!
Let's talk.
I wasn't sure whether or not to do the good stuff first and then the bad stuff, or point/counterpoint, because if I did the bad stuff last it'd end on a bad note and /psych101, but I eventually just said
And so I did. Just going to crap out ideas on this page as they come to me.
I promise it won't be as messy as it sounds.
So!
You're a blast to RP with. Your characters that I've seen (Merica, Xigo, Skyfin, aaaaannd...that may be it? Not many I've interacted with. Although I always go SSSSSSIIIIINDRRIIIIIIII whenever you log in on her, and I was terribly disappointed when you said you'd never RP with me on Zalth) are all varied and well-RP'd. Merica tends to depress the crap out of me, but that means you're doing it right.
Because you've never heard that before, right?
Your mini-events are (as I've mentioned before) awesome, great ways to liven up a bit of RP, and just so unexpected that this is my excited face when I run into one:
But you know all this. You've gotten tons of feedback about your characters/DMing/whatnot already. So I'll do something different. Something less...mainstream.
Yeah.
In short, Xigo, this is you:
Magical bringer of sunshine, rainbows, and fun.
Except when you're not.
Whoa, whoa, hey, calm down, you are, it'll be okay. I promise.
You have a tendency to be/you are...extremely blunt, in your posts. Blunt to the point of rudeness. You just come out and say what you feel and seem to not care what people think of it. Don't get me wrong; honesty is good. If you have a problem with someone's ideas/the way they're doing something, bring it up. The way you do it, though, makes you come off like an ass sometimes. But there's more tactful ways of saying things that won't alienate people. You can tell someone you don't like their idea without sounding like "This is stupid and you're stupid."
I used to be the same way, way back when. It was easier/quicker/I didn't have the time/desire to spend explaining myself. It was simpler to just give a flat "No" or be snarky/biting. It's not. It hurts more than it helps.
I remember a GM a while back (not pointing fingers, and if you know who I'm talking about by reading this, I apologize, but it's a good point) that was pretty rude/curt/short with people. I'd never interacted with them, never RP'd with them, only read their posts, and I saw them as a rude, nasty person who I felt was not representing the staff well by acting like that. Then they'd come along in-game and I'd go "Ohgodit'sXgm"
/hide
It just wasn't good.
Now, that aside...aside, let's go back to you, because I still feel like I'm not explaining myself well. Sure, you can say "No, this idea is terrible and will never work. Stop." Okay, fine, it works. But what've you done with that? 1: Called someone's idea/work stupid. That's hurtful, no matter how detached you are as the idea maker. 2: Probably seeded some feelings of resentment in that person. I know I'd be rather miffed if it were me. 3: Portrayed yourself as curt/debatably rude to the hundred other people who just read that post. Because it's a public forum, and everyone can see just about everything. Maybe you don't care about that, but...maybe you should. People have long memories.
Instead of that outcome...why not try "Okay, I don't think this will work the way it is. Maybe if you changed X and tweaked Y a bit, it'd be workable then. Give it another shot!" Something I've learned in the last two years is the importance of cushioning criticism. When I review someone's writing that is, objectively, terrible, I don't say "This is bad and you should feel bad." That's just hurtful, and it kills their motivation. I've seen people just stop writing/doing whatever they were working on because of overly harsh criticism. What I do instead is "So I liked X and Y, though I think Z could use a bit of work. Maybe if you tried..." And so on. Cushioning. Empathy. If you make someone feel good about something
else in their work, the bite from the rest of the "your idea is bad" isn't so bad. Again, maybe it doesn't matter to you how you come off to people. But eh.
Wow, that got a bit long winded, didn't it? MOVING ON.
On the flipside, you're wonderful to talk to in skype/in game and whatnot. It's just when you're the faceless Xigo GM Sunbro poster that you come off as rude. When I'm chatting with you directly, you're great. You do have a tendency to use ellipses a lot, though, and it makes me feel like I'm not getting something and you're going
in your head. Maybe that's not the case (hopefully; I like to think of myself as rather clever huehue), but that's how I interpret the '...Well.' Sort of things.
AND ONE MORE THING.
You've been getting better, but I find the most ANNOYING THING IN THE WOOOOORLD is when you appear out of nowhere with your magical powers and just start RPing. No preface, no hi, just SUDDENLY XIGO.
And I'm all "Hi."
And you're all "Hey."
And I'm all "How's it going?"
And you're all NO RESPONSE.
And I'm all
And then we RP.
And then it's over, and I'm typing something like "Was fun!" or "Good to see you again!", and you JUST VANISH.
And I'm generally like this:
You've been better, of late, but that was always the thing that annoyed me the most about our interactions. Its mostly because I can't /who you, so I'm not even sure if you're around, and then boom.
Also I've been trying to fit this image in but couldn't find a place, so you're awesome for liking all the things I like but you're also filthy loyalist scum and here's a picture I like:
Nah, but srs. We've got a lot of similar interests. Do you play ME3 on PC? You should come join Rowgen and I. We've been tearing it up in multiplayer.
Need more Ana/Merica/Jaerin RPz. Tell Lox. (I can't look at her the same ever since she turned green. It's
weird. No offense Lox )
You do some hilarious stuff sometimes. I believe your nanosuit is always set to
I do remember when we first started RPing. I was just like "Oh, cool, hi Merica, well that was fun, etc etc" we RP'd a couple of times, then I was like "Huh, who plays her? /wiki"
"ohmigawditsXigohowdidInotknowthis"
Skyfin seems to be your go-to semi-serious troller. I remember him being a really interesting/actual character during Kidnapped, but after that all I've seen is him wandering through random RPs going "Murgle" and then leaving. I dunno.
...I, um.
Think this is long enough, would you agree?
So I'll leave you with this
Dear lord I've been sitting here for over an hour. Damnit Xigo.
Also
Chaos is beeeeeetter.
Alright, this is getting a bit/very spammy. I'm dooooone.
Not even going to proofread it. So there. Enjoy.
/bow