That There Law

[Aphetoros]

I went over this in my guide, too.

[Uthaniel]

This is a terrible post.

The author should be ashamed of herself.

She is a nub.

This post does not help CotH at all, and is unnecessary.

I am most certainly not saying the opposite of what I actually think.

Spoiler:

Will you marry me?

On a more serious note, here's a small quote from our beloved book of rules.

Generally, any type of RP is allowed, AS LONG AS EVERY PARTICIPANT IS COMFORTABLE WITH IT.

Now, this refers to Types of RP. Mind, some people may be comfortable with -specific- types of "Character warnings" such as maiming and whatnot, while aren't comfortable with others, such as character death. Which is another reason why a discussion would be needed. Putting yourself in the other's position would also help.
"Would I want to be forced to take part in this? Would I want this to happen to my character without searching for a middle ground?"
And so on. The answer is more than likely no - Which is why, while just saying "Character warning to x!" might be enough, discussing terms and reaching a middle ground is vital, as it helps not only making things go smoothly and avoid drama - it can also make the RP more fun to both parties.

[Gaiaboy10]

I agree completely with this. I have had one small problem with the "If you keep doing what you're doing, you're gonna get hurt." thing though. I don't mean I oppose some one being killed for attacking some one and refusing to stop. What I'm saying is...well, an example would help. A character of mine is walking along, he comes across a fight and it's rather obvious to me he wouldn't be able to win if he were to interfere. As soon as he gets near, a CW is issued to him. Now, although he has other things going on and -I- want him to live, I've RPed the character as some one who would jump in and help in the fight. Not some one who'd just walk away. I'm left in the situation of being forced to chose if my OOC want for him to move along and continue the RP he has going is more important than staying to how I've RPed the character in the past. I want him to live, but the character wouldn't walk away. I have to either face likely character death, or let an OOC problem influence what I do. It annoys me because we're not supposed to use IC actions as the resolution to OOC problems. I translate that to "Don't RP your character differently because of OOC problems.". So if I decide to stick to how I RP him, I'm gonna have to fight even though I don't want to. See what I mean?

[Wuvvums]

That's just the consequence of staying IC- you can still play the hero, but it has its risk. However, you still have the power OOCly to decide what happens to your character. For example, you can retcon him even coming across the fight, if you think it's too deadly for him to participate. You don't have to force yourself into a trap where IC and OOC conflict, and you feel like your character must die.

[DiesUltime]

That's just the consequence of staying IC- you can still play the hero, but it has its risk. However, you still have the power OOCly to decide what happens to your character. For example, you can retcon him even coming across the fight, if you think it's too deadly for him to participate. You don't have to force yourself into a trap where IC and OOC conflict, and you feel like your character must die.

Exactly. Same goes for the opposite. I've read somewhere that a good RPer doesn't fall into the idea that "OH MY CHARACTER WOULDN'T DO THAT" or the alternative "MY CHARACTER HAS TO DO THIS, IT'S HOW THEY ARE" sort of idea. There is not one thing wrong with OOC motivations, but the trick is -how- to respond with it.

[Wuvvums]

Yeah, it boils down to the fact that it's your character, your choice, no one can tell you what you have to do with him or her! I've actually done the same with some characters, avoiding deadly situations where they'd rather be involved.

[Gaiaboy10]

Alright...I just feel an obligation to RP my character theway I've been doing it. I'm just not a fan of retcons personally.

[Serendipitous]

A great guide! I very much appreciate the time it took to write this up, let alone think about the subject itself. This guide clearly comes from experience; experience that even a seasoned RPer like myself can benefit from listening to. (: