01-05-2011, 03:47 AM
For some folks, the holiday season is a time to get grumpy and get through all the shopping you have to do, or dealing with all the grumpy people doing their shopping (grr, retail!). For others, it's a time to (attempt to) be more generous, congenial, and a generally good person!
For a while, I've noticed a lot of folks being generally not pleasant with each other - mostly in forum posts. Yes, this has happened for a while, which has been troubling. Whether it be a lack of tact or not much experience dealing with other folks in a respectful manner (or at least not realizing how your words may be possibly misinterpreted in a negative way), it's irrelevant. What I would like to do is make an appeal for everyone to, for lack of a better term, extend the holiday spirit (or at least the positive aspect of it) for an extra month.
This means, when posting a reply to someone -
Of course, this doesn't mean that there's no potential to also be a better person than normal on-server; try going out of your way to help someone requesting assistance. While it doesn't have to be in a tangible form, answering questions and even simply saying 'Hello!' and 'Take care!' when someone is logging on and off will usually help someone feel appreciated.
Bear in mind that one thing that I feel sets us apart from many online communities is the general maturity level of most folks here. A higher competency in expressing themselves, using normal language, and generally being rational human beings. I do not wish for any new potential members to see a rare spot of rudeness or lack of respect, and have that first impression taint their view of our server, nor do I wish long-time members gradually float away as a result of some folks being unable to express themselves in a calm, rational and respectful manner.
If anyone has suggestions for your fellow CotH-Folk to assist them in getting along even better, please feel free to pipe up! (Constructively!)
Thank you!
For a while, I've noticed a lot of folks being generally not pleasant with each other - mostly in forum posts. Yes, this has happened for a while, which has been troubling. Whether it be a lack of tact or not much experience dealing with other folks in a respectful manner (or at least not realizing how your words may be possibly misinterpreted in a negative way), it's irrelevant. What I would like to do is make an appeal for everyone to, for lack of a better term, extend the holiday spirit (or at least the positive aspect of it) for an extra month.
This means, when posting a reply to someone -
- Stop and think for a moment after composing your post.
- Consider if your post may be perceived in a negative manner.
- Try saying your post out loud to yourself - if you had the same thing said in return, would you possibly find it rude? Borderline disrespectful? Be honest!
- Try going out of your way to compliment someone on a good post (it doesn't have to be a reply to the post, but if it is, please add something to contribute to the thread)
Of course, this doesn't mean that there's no potential to also be a better person than normal on-server; try going out of your way to help someone requesting assistance. While it doesn't have to be in a tangible form, answering questions and even simply saying 'Hello!' and 'Take care!' when someone is logging on and off will usually help someone feel appreciated.
Bear in mind that one thing that I feel sets us apart from many online communities is the general maturity level of most folks here. A higher competency in expressing themselves, using normal language, and generally being rational human beings. I do not wish for any new potential members to see a rare spot of rudeness or lack of respect, and have that first impression taint their view of our server, nor do I wish long-time members gradually float away as a result of some folks being unable to express themselves in a calm, rational and respectful manner.
If anyone has suggestions for your fellow CotH-Folk to assist them in getting along even better, please feel free to pipe up! (Constructively!)
Thank you!