05-25-2009, 03:50 PM
This word has been the cornerstone in the Conquest-rulebook ever since I first came here, and during those months I've had numerous conversations with other players about how the term, to some, is completely misunderstood considering the way it is being applied and handled. Obviously this is the beliefs of a select few and doesn't necessarily represent the truth, but hopefully you will all be respectful enough to acknowledge the opinion of others even if it differs from your own.
So what is respect to you? To me, respect means being treated with esteem and consideration and the will to treat others in a similar fashion. Empathy goes hand-in-hand with respect, the ability to have a regard for other peoples' feelings grants an ability to see things from their point-of-view and allows for more just treatment of said people, should the situation call for it.
On CoTH however I saw many times how the term 'disrespectful' was put to use when an individual didn't agree with the opinion of those that 'mattered', or however you want to put it. People in power asserted their authorities over the less powerful cliques and very often showed what can best be described as arrogant attitudes. To me, this (if anything) qualifies as disrespectful manners, yet no action was ever taken. Instead, it became the people 'below' who got accused of not showing the higherups proper respect for accepting the fact that being in control's extremely stressful and thus one had the right to be.. grumpy? for lack of a better word. This was one of the main reasons why I gave up on playing here. I was part of the 'popular crowd' for a long time, but I slowly realized that you ran a constant risk of being shut out and backtalked as soon as you swayed from the general opinion, and upon complaining you were deemed disrespectful to the community and cast out. (I saw this happen several times)
So I guess this thread sort of serves both as a form of criticism towards how the term respect is applied here, as well as a chance to discuss the meaning of the word itself. I trust that whoever chooses to participate and perhaps even offer up a retort to my views on the CoTH-rulebook keep things nice and civilized.
I'm not trying to offend anyone, but I do believe in freedom of speech and the right to question.
So what is respect to you? To me, respect means being treated with esteem and consideration and the will to treat others in a similar fashion. Empathy goes hand-in-hand with respect, the ability to have a regard for other peoples' feelings grants an ability to see things from their point-of-view and allows for more just treatment of said people, should the situation call for it.
On CoTH however I saw many times how the term 'disrespectful' was put to use when an individual didn't agree with the opinion of those that 'mattered', or however you want to put it. People in power asserted their authorities over the less powerful cliques and very often showed what can best be described as arrogant attitudes. To me, this (if anything) qualifies as disrespectful manners, yet no action was ever taken. Instead, it became the people 'below' who got accused of not showing the higherups proper respect for accepting the fact that being in control's extremely stressful and thus one had the right to be.. grumpy? for lack of a better word. This was one of the main reasons why I gave up on playing here. I was part of the 'popular crowd' for a long time, but I slowly realized that you ran a constant risk of being shut out and backtalked as soon as you swayed from the general opinion, and upon complaining you were deemed disrespectful to the community and cast out. (I saw this happen several times)
So I guess this thread sort of serves both as a form of criticism towards how the term respect is applied here, as well as a chance to discuss the meaning of the word itself. I trust that whoever chooses to participate and perhaps even offer up a retort to my views on the CoTH-rulebook keep things nice and civilized.
I'm not trying to offend anyone, but I do believe in freedom of speech and the right to question.